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Your Inner Critic Won't Stop Adding Rules. Here's The Fix. | Julian Shapiro-Barnum

September 25, 2026 · 46 min

What kids can teach you about how to handle anger, being uptight, and rejection, according to the creator of Recess Therapy.

Julian Shapiro-Barnum is a comedian, writer, and interviewer known for Recess Therapy, Celebrity Substitute, and Outside Tonight. He's won seven Webby Awards, was named to the Forbes 30 Under 30, and received a Family Entertainment Award from Variety. His first book is How to Grow Up Without Becoming a Grown-Up.

In this episode we talk about:

  • The playground question kids ask that adults are too scared to say out loud
  • Why Julian stopped calling it your "inner child" — and what he calls it instead
  • The trick for making feelings pass in minutes instead of weeks
  • How breaking a rule on purpose can loosen something bigger in you
  • The childhood habit that makes rejection sting so much less
  • What growing up with five parents taught Julian about talking to anyone
  • A tiny physical habit that can snowball into real change
  • Why the most viral moment of his career wasn't about wisdom at all

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