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When Someone Insults You, Ask Them This

September 22, 2026 · 23 min

The best communicators are not the ones with the fastest comeback. They are the ones who know which question to ask. In this episode, I break down how to ask better questions when someone is insulting, pushing against you, or trying to pull you into an argument.


I will show you how to use clarifying questions to slow a conversation down, questions of intent to put the focus back where it belongs, and no-oriented questions to make a request without creating more resistance. You will learn how to stop giving people something to fight against and start asking questions that lead to clearer, calmer conversations.


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